Interview with Melinda Under the Tree Linky Party #14

by | Aug 26, 2016 | 6 comments

Linky Party

Welcome to Under the Tree.  This week’s interview is with Melinda who wrote the most viewed post, Who Can Understand It? from her blog Fruit of Brokenness.

Below there are a few questions Melinda graciously answered for your reading enjoyment.  Read Melinda’s  responses and then add your post to the linky party.  You could be interview for the next post if you have the most views.

1. What is your blog about and what made you choose that topic?

I blog about mental health and faith. More specifically, being a Christian who suffers from mental illness. There is still unfortunate misunderstanding in the church. Christians can suffer depression and anxiety, and still be “good” Christians.

It’s dangerous to tell someone they don’t have enough faith, or they don’t read the Bible or pray enough, or they must have unconfessed sin if they claim to be a Christian but are depressed. A dismissive attitude of blame can keep people from admitting they have a problem and getting necessary spiritual and medical help. Christians who accuse Christians with mental health struggles are as unhelpful as Job’s friends when they stopped sitting with him in the ashes and started giving advice.

That being said, spiritual disciplines are necessary in the battle for mental health, as is examining one’s heart and letting God point out unhelpful and sinful attitudes and behaviors. When we let God point out what needs to be changed, we experience conviction, not condemnation. When we accept His judgment of our sin, we repent and He restores and empowers us to experience victory over what entangles and weighs us down.

Living an intentional spiritual life is necessary for all Christians.

But it doesn’t guarantee mental health.

I write to encourage other believers who struggle with mental health issues, and also encourage those who love us. A side goal is helping those in the church who minimize mental health to merely a spiritual issue realize that’s not a Biblical perspective.

God can heal. God does heal. But God doesn’t always heal.

His purpose is to be glorified. And if that’s in and through my broken brain, I have to choose to praise Him and, with Paul, get out of the way and let Him be strong in my weakness.

2. How do you manage your time between their family, church life, blogging, and work (if you work outside of the home)?

Balance is a constant struggle for me. Top priority is my walk with Christ; when I’m getting that right, everything else better falls into place. But living my top priority on top is easier said than done. I’m easily distracted. There’s always something that needs attention. And better doesn’t mean perfect.

Family is next priority. We homeschool. We’re still on summer break, and I’m trying to design a new routine for the rapidly approaching school year. We need some firmer, but not rigid structure, to successfully take on the challenges of the school year.

Balancing family and housework with blogging and online work is where I struggle most. God has pushed me into a season of effort to grow my blog, and I need to generate income. More work means less family time, and my house… ugh.

Sometimes it feels like I can’t win. Every yes requires at least one no.

We’ll see how the new schedule goes over the next few months and tweak as necessary.

I try to start my day with a big glass of water, a decent breakfast and time in the Word. Otherwise, I’m off-kilter from the start.

3. What blog(s) do you read in your free time?  Which blog(s) give you inspiration?

One blog I particularly appreciate lately is Wendy Munsell’s Blessed Unravelling. Another is The Messy Mrs. I’m becoming acquainted with so many inspiring and useful blogs as I explore the new world of link-ups and blogger groups!

4. What book(s) are you currently reading?

Miroslav Volf’s The End of Memory: Remembering Rightly in a Violent World.

My best recent new read is Sheila Walsh’s The Longing in Me: How Everything You Crave Leads to the Heart of God.

I’m trying to get back in the habit of monthly book reviews, but I’m having a hard time finding enough time to read as much as I’d like!

5. What advice do you have for new bloggers? For experienced bloggers?

The best advice I can give any Christian blogger is to remain true to your calling and true to the One who calls us. More good advice: Don’t compare your blog’s performance to others’. Find your voice. Remember your blog stats don’t define your worth.

Thank you Melinda for your time and blessing us with your wonderful writing!

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  1. Thank you, Norma Gail. Isn’t it wonderful that in Christ we can be whole in our brokenness?

  2. I will let her know you said so! She did a wonderful job!

  3. She did do an excellent job. My mom has fibromyalgia and it is not easy for her. But She knows it is in God’s hands not her own. I will be praying for you Norma!

  4. I completely agree with Melissa! You go, girl. Preach.

  5. Excellent article! My sister suffered from deep clinical depression for years. I suffer from a wide range of medical conditions, including fibromyalgia, which is very misunderstood in the medical community. You make excellent points about believers and the church giving grace.

Interview with Melinda Under the Tree Linky Party #14

by | Aug 26, 2016 | 6 comments